Tuesday, January 25, 2011
I love my Husband
There are a couple of things coming up that my husband would love to do or go to, and I would love to be able to treat him to those things, but alas, it's not to be. Not right now at any rate.
I have one particular wish for my husband and that's to send him to a conference in Orlando in March. I only found out about the conference tonight however and considering we have Valentines Day, his birthday, skiing and a family vacation between now and then, it's not going to happen. But perhaps I'm looking at this wrong. Perhaps I'm being too short-sighted and not romantic enough.
Example: instead of lamenting that I can't send him this year, maybe I take the next year and plan how I could send him in style. I could arrange a buddy to go with him, scrape up some money, plan their whole trip and let him know a month in advance so that he has time to be excited about it. And maybe instead of lamenting the fact that things like Valentines Day are getting in the way of bigger and better goals, I should be making better plans for our V-Day celebration so that I can get excited for those. I remember one year when we were dating I made this luscious Chocolate Anise cake, borrowed a cafe table and chairs from the cafe I was working at and set it up in my living room with a rose, candles, glasses of wine and a menu. This menu, however, did not contain options for food, but options for the evening. It included back rubs, a movie, board games, a walk, a night out or any combination therein. I took a picture of it because it was just so cute! But I've already done that so maybe I could make a special dinner for him and when Gabe goes to sleep show him into the office where I could have the futon laid out with white linen and rose petals all over and soft music and give him the supreme massage that would put any masseuse to shame, complete with oils, heated towels and chocolate (he loves chocolate). Or maybe I could have the entire house clean for him :) He'd love that just as much I'm sure.
And yet maybe, just maybe, I'm still looking at this wrong. Maybe instead of looking at these big things so longingly, maybe I ought to be focusing more on making his everyday experiences better and showing him day to day how much I love him. I could be getting up before him and making breakfast, having his lunch ready and making sure his morning runs smoothly. And I could be making his home an "en gedi" for him to come home to every day. En Gedi is mentioned in Song of Solomon and it refers to an oasis; Mark Driscoll talks in his sermon series "The Peasant Princess" about how a man's home should be his En Gedi - a place that he desires and that he feels blessed and relaxed in and not a place that causes him stress or frustrates him. FYI, every married couple should watch the Peasant Princess series. But anyway, while I may not be wrong in wanting to send my husband to some far off destination so he can attend a conference he wants to go to, and while I may not be wrong in planning special events for us, I would be more right to focus on showing my husband daily that I adore him and I want to make our home a haven for him. And when I've adapted some of those things I'll happily relook my situation and see whether or not I can send my husband to Orlando - or maybe at that point I'll be aware of more day to day things that I can do for him.
Mrs. Vander Leek ;)